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Forget FOMO – Embrace JOMO

JOMO (the joy of missing out) is a very welcome new trend and the exact opposite of the soul-crushing ethos of FOMO (the fear of missing out) that has dominated so many people’s lives for so long. The Urban Dictionary defines it as: ‘Enjoying what you’re doing in the here and now and not on social media, broadcasting or seeing what everybody else is doing.’ Example: Guy #1: I had a great day, climbed a hill and didn’t check Facebook. Guy #2: Good day? Guy #1: Yea, pure JOMO. Many Digital Apps Are Designed to Be Addictive Steve Jobs knew very well that the devices he designed and many of the apps they run are addictive, and he took steps to protect his own children from them. ‘We limit how much technology our kids use at home,’ he told reporter, Nick Bilton, when she asked about their use of iPads. Bill Gates took a similar approach. He didn’t let any of his three children have a mobile phone until they were 14 years old. Now current and ex-Silicon Valley tech executives

Karen Kingston: The Art of Auditioning for Life

Sir Michael Caine’s memoir, Blowing The Bloody Doors Off, might seem like an unlikely source of inspiring wisdom, but it contains some great advice. You are always auditioning, he says. ‘If you only think you’re auditioning when you’re in the room with the casting director, you’re missing half of it,’ says Caine. ‘You’re auditioning when you’re checking in with the receptionist, when you’re sitting in the waiting area, when you’re grabbing a cup of coffee. In fact, whenever you’re in any public space, you’re auditioning. You never know who’s watching.’ Six degrees of separation His advice is aimed at aspiring young actors. But it applies equally well to anyone who wants to get known for their area of expertise. It works according to the theory of six degrees of separation, which is that anyone you need to connect with is only about six introductions away from you, starting with the people you already know, then the people they know, and so on. A 2006 study conducted by Microsoft on 30 billion Messenger conversations between 180 million people around the world

Strategic Placement to Meet More Targeted Singles

Location, Location, Location: Why Where You Hang Matters in Romance and Business I just emailed a male coaching client who is in my flagship VIP Matchmaking program because he is highly motivated to find a really top quality match. He’s dated a ton a girls, many of them quite beautiful. And while looks do matter, this man gets it. He wants an interesting and intelligent woman with an intriguing head on her shoulders to marry. He’s an entrepreneur. He does not lead your average life. Sometimes he works long hours. He’s a reader. He thinks a lot. His idea of fun is not just hanging on the coach in the evening after work watching endless hours of television. Yes, he enjoys tv, but it better be something fun and intriguing, not just some kind of drivel like Honey Boo Boo. For him, he’s not interested in going to the same old haunts. He doesn’t want to go on a date anymore just to get out. If he’s going to go somewhere, it’s gotta be worthwhile. For him and all my VIP

April Braswell: Breaking the Ice with People

Getting into a Conversation Comfortably, Confidently, and Casually When the Holiday season is in full swing, this is a particularly easy time of year to break the ice with people every day of the week. Whatever the time of year or season, there is often a seasonal event or occasion upon which you can lean to assist you in how you break the ice with people who are complete strangers. This can assist you whether you’re a single looking to date and get more comfortable and socially skilled or a new sales person needing to sell items, services, or just yourself as a professional. Developing your ease and agility for breaking the ice with people stands you in good stead in all social and business professional interpersonal situations. Whether you’re a single hoping to get the cute guy to ask for your number or a get the beautiful woman to talk to you and give you her phone number when you ask for it, or possibly a sales man or woman looking to make more selling connections, many people want

Darnell Cox: The Rebirth of Breakfast

Breakfast, we are told, is the most important meal of the day, yet most of us are getting it completely wrong. And the worst part is, we THINK we are doing the right thing. Ugh! And what leads us to believe such bullsh*t? Advertising. A good rule of thumb is that if you’ve seen mass advertising for it, you probably shouldn’t be eating it. When was the last time you saw an ad campaign for strawberries, bananas, chia seeds, almonds, green tea, blueberries…. You get what I’m saying, right? For example, we are bombarded with advertisements for cereal. In fact, there is a long, double-sided aisle in most supermarkets devoted to breakfast cereal alone. Beware, folks. Stay away from it. (Both the cereal and the aisle.) The last thing you should be putting into your body after starving yourself for the (hopefully) 8 hours you’ve slept is a big bowl of processed carbohydrates! Let’s just think about this for a second, shall we? Our metabolism has slowed down while we are at rest. We wake up, we grab a box

10 Popular Social Crutches

1. Smartphones The most obvious social crutch used to be smoking. You would see people light up and puff away, not because they really needed or wanted a cigarette but just to have something to do with their hands. Health warnings have led to a huge reduction in smoking in Western countries in the last few decades. It’s no longer socially acceptable and is banned outright in many public areas. So what do people do now? Smartphones are to the current generation what cigarettes were to the last. Primarily designed to help people stay in touch, they are also a popular crutch to avoid social awkwardness. It’s a rare person who finds themselves at a loose end in a public place (waiting for something, eating alone, and so on) and doesn’t pull out their phone to give themselves something to do. Some people with low self-confidence take this even further and may pretend to text someone or even fake making a call. I once saw a girl on a train doing this, but her phone rang while she was talking

3 Must Know Tips for Dating After 40

If you are venturing back out again into dating after 40 as a lady seeking a long term love relationship and not just a Tinder hookup, then there are 3 tips you must know in order to be smart, safe and successful in midlife courtship. These are 3 must know tips for women for dating after 40 looking to date quality men and find a life long love relationship. 3 Must Know Tips for Women Dating for After 40: You Deserve More Than a Hook Up Ladies, You Deserve a Relationship with a Man Who Loves You By the way, gentlemen, I believe and inculcate that you deserve to be in a relationship with a woman who loves you and appreciates you for the man that you are, too. This is not a one-sided thing. There is no one-sidedness in marriage. There is no winning. Marriage and long term committed relationship always require a win-win approach to relating, love, intimacy, and communication. Dating certainly is different now at midlife than it was in your 20s and 30s. If you are

7 Tips for Dating Again After Divorce Over 40

Midlife Dating Advice and Tips for Singles Re-Entering the Dating World after Divorcing When you’re divorced and looking to get back out there and date again, here are 7 tips to ease you back into the dating scene and get your dating stride back up again. I was driving north on 101 recently on a Wednesday morning to my office in Silicon Valley last June when I heard the DJs on the radio talking about some poor lady in her 40s who was recently divorced who had been on her first date on Saturday night after being divorced for two years. Her return to modern dating has been dreadful. It had been a MISERY. I’m thinking, “This dear lady needs some concrete help with dating after divorce tips.” I really wanted just to pull over to the side of the road and phone the radio station and give the dear thing my email and phone number. “Have her call me. I can help. Really. Please let me help her because she needs building up after an experience like that.” Divorce is

Willpower From a Spiritual Perspective

When I first heard the theory that we only have so much willpower and then it runs out, I really didn’t buy it. In my experience, willpower is precisely what you use to overcome feeling too lazy, tired or disinterested to continue until a job is done. The whole point of cultivating willpower is so that you can keep going instead of caving in. And I do believe it can be cultivated. Some people need to work at this more than others, it’s true, but it can be done. The ego-depletion theory The ego-depletion theory, first proposed in 1998 by Roy Baumeister and Dianne Tice, stated that willpower is like a muscle that gets fatigued with overuse, and when this happens, it weakens our ability to resist temptations. This was supposed to explain, for example, why someone might break their diet by succumbing to pizza or ice cream after a hard day’s work at the office. Their willpower for the day was all used up. This theory held sway for over seventeen years and was widely cited by many self-help gurus as an insight

The Beauty Benefits of Pumpkin

’Tis the season for all things pumpkin. From Halloween through Thanksgiving, and on till Christmas, pumpkins can be found almost everywhere you turn. Although the Pumpkin-Spiced Latte from Starbucks may not be the healthiest source from which you get your pumpkin (note: it’s not!), I do urge you to take advantage of this super-food while it’s in season. So, for all of you would-be fairy-princesses out there, dressing up for Halloween (yes, we ALL should still be dressing up), be aware that Cinderella’s Fairy Godmother may have been on to something truly “magical” by choosing this amazing super-food for Cinderella’s carriage.  The health benefits of pumpkin are numerous. This colorful gourd promotes good vision and a healthy heart, lowers blood pressure, acts as a cancer-preventative, boosts your immune system, and improves your mood. (Why do you think Jack-o-Lanterns are always smiling?) However, less publicized are the beauty benefits of pumpkin. Yep, that’s right, adding pumpkin to your diet will make you look better. Hooray! Here is why. 1) Pumpkin gives you a hefty dose of Vitamin C, which aids in protecting your