7 Tips for Dating Again After Divorce Over 40

Midlife Dating Advice and Tips for Singles Re-Entering the Dating World after Divorcing When you’re divorced and looking to get back out there and date again, here are 7 tips to ease you back into the dating scene and get your dating stride back up again. I was driving north on 101 recently on a Wednesday morning to my office in Silicon Valley last June when I heard the DJs on the radio talking about some poor lady in her 40s who was recently divorced who had been on her first date on Saturday night after being divorced for two years. Her return to modern dating has been dreadful. It had been a MISERY. I’m thinking, “This dear lady needs some concrete help with dating after divorce tips.” I really wanted just to pull over to the side of the road and phone the radio station and give the dear thing my email and phone number. “Have her call me. I can help. Really. Please let me help her because she needs building up after an experience like that.” Divorce is

Willpower From a Spiritual Perspective

When I first heard the theory that we only have so much willpower and then it runs out, I really didn’t buy it. In my experience, willpower is precisely what you use to overcome feeling too lazy, tired or disinterested to continue until a job is done. The whole point of cultivating willpower is so that you can keep going instead of caving in. And I do believe it can be cultivated. Some people need to work at this more than others, it’s true, but it can be done. The ego-depletion theory The ego-depletion theory, first proposed in 1998 by Roy Baumeister and Dianne Tice, stated that willpower is like a muscle that gets fatigued with overuse, and when this happens, it weakens our ability to resist temptations. This was supposed to explain, for example, why someone might break their diet by succumbing to pizza or ice cream after a hard day’s work at the office. Their willpower for the day was all used up. This theory held sway for over seventeen years and was widely cited by many self-help gurus as an insight

5 Lifehacks to Meet Men in Real Life

As America’s Midlife Dating coach, single boomer men and women are always asking me where to meet quality mature singles in their 50s and 60s. Mature men are interested in meeting quality women, too. This article is specifically geared for single midlife ladies to meet men over 50 in real life. Online Dating over 50 is so vast a topic, it requires its own series of articles. Be sure to check back here at Throomers regularly to get more great tips for Dating After 50. (Psst) Men, it’s ok for you to sneak a peek here and read this article and make use of it for you, too! While this is particularly targeting the social needs of midlife women, men can apply the ideas in their lives too. Breaking Out of Your Rut and Expanding Who You Meet in Real Life One of the greatest challenges singles over 50 encounter is more of your life is set. Dating Coaching clients tell me, “I’m set in my ways.” Well, that’s fine for some things, and not so much for others. You might

Karen Kingston: Don’t worry, be happy, live longer!

Winston Churchill once said, ‘A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.’ Which you choose to be can literally change your life. Always look on the bright side of life It says a lot about the English that the most requested music at funerals is no longer Christian hymns. A survey of over 30,000 funerals in 2014 found that by far the most requested piece was Eric Idle’s Always Look on the Bright Side of Life, from the jaunty crucifixion scene at the end of the Monty Python movie, Life of Brian. Sung with a cheerful Cockney accent, the song begins: Some things in life are bad They can really make you mad Other things just make you swear and curse When you’re chewing on life’s gristle Don’t grumble, give a whistle And this’ll help things turn out for the best Eric Idle sang it live at Monty Python Graham Chapman’s funeral in 1989 and it’s gained more and more popularity ever since, appealing mostly to baby boomers who have Pythonesque humour